Here are some signs that you’re in a healthy relationship:

• You consider your boyfriend or girlfriend your friend.
• You have fun with him/her.
• He/she asks for your opinions and thoughts.
• He/she has good relationships with family and with other friends.
• He/she is a good listener and cares about what you say and feel.
• You can act like yourself when you are with him/her.
• He/she has other interests besides you.
• He/she gives you respect.
• The two of you work through your problems together.
• You feel that you could end the relationship if you are not happy.
• You feel good and unafraid when you are with him/her.

These are some signs of an unhealthy relationship:

• He/she gets angry or hurts you if you don’t pay enough attention to him/her.
• He/she calls you repeatedly to check up on where you’ve been or what you’ve been doing and expects you to explain where you’ve been every time you’re apart.
• He/she is jealous of your friends and/or your family.
• You have seen him/her throw, hit, or break things or abuse animals when he/she is angry.
• He/she calls you names and/or makes you feel bad about yourself.
• He/she uses drugs or alcohol and becomes abusive.
• He/she has been or has threatened to be physically abusive to you.
• He/she has become too serious too quickly.
• He/she pressures you into sexual activity.
• He/she treats you differently when other people are around than when you are alone together.